Men…Sheesh
Why is it that some men don’t know how to approach a woman?
In the past two weeks I have come across quite a few guys that just don’t dang get it. First you have “The Marketer” he is nothing but a series of positioning statements. Everything out of his mouth is an attempt to position himself in my favor. And what…am I supposed to swoon over him because he makes himself APPEAR to be a great guy…come on dude…marketing is what I do all day (almost have a degree in it…can we say Graduation Party!!!)…it is gonna take a lot more then a series of marketing messages to get a positive response rate out of me…your campaign response rate 0%. Next we have “The Fisherman” who for a couple months now has tried to bait me…let me throw it out there that I’m interested and see if she bites…let me tell her it would be great if we…and see if she bites…DUDE, I’m not a fish, don’t eat worms…stop trying to bait me…if you want to ask me out it isn’t that complicated…repeat after me WOULD-YOU-LIKE-TO-HAVE-DINNER-WITH-ME? See now wasn’t that easy? And last but not least we have “The Blingmaster” (Yeah that isn’t a real word). The Blingmaster believes that it doesn’t matter that he can spell stuff with all the jewels and gold in his mouth; he thinks the 100ft vehicle he is drivin on 22’s is enough to make me drool. DUDE…the only 100ft vehicle I’m getting in is a yacht and I’d like to be able to introduce you to people without them reading your name from your smile. I could go on and on but I’ll stop there.
So my question is why o why do so many (not all) men have such difficulty asking women out? Or do these techniques actually work?
on March 24th, 2005 at 6:27 pm
That was funny and a little sad, but true. I’m not about to use the catch phrase used by us ‘males’ when we encounter questions the ‘techniques’ used to attract females (lol… sounds like something off animal planet): “I’m not like that.”
Off the top I can’t say which catagory I fit in (NOT blingmaster though… I don’t have anything that blings), but more than likely I’ve either willing apporached or been percieved as a member of one of those catagories before (most of the time it may happen without knowing). A reason (not excuse) for the behavior is that most females are receptive to such conduct. That’s why and that’s the only reason… we change according to how the female majority changes (adaptation). It may start to seem like the chicken and the egg senario but the beginning to make changes in social behaviors start with the adolesences. Besides people (especially young people) teach themselves how they ‘ought’ to be. Let’s show them an alternative… This can be applied to many things… Well, how you like my ‘tactics?’ Are you ’swooned’ yet??? lol
on March 31st, 2005 at 4:56 pm
I would say it’s because you never know what type of woman you are talking to. I have not been in the dating scene for a while, but when I was the thing I noticed is every woman is different. If you are around clubs, the blingmaster is in force. If you pull past the club in an 87 Honda Accord, women in line turn their nose to you (regardless of what their integrity is). They automatically assume you are broke and no woman wants a broke man. Perhaps men take this same attitude into the mall, into the workplace, into church, etc… They assume the bling is still what attracts a professional woman. If you put the professional woman in the right atmosphere, the bling probably will attract her but it’s not an everyday thing. Dating is a game and I don’t think anyone knows the rules so they all come off acting retarded. I admit, I have an Expedition on 22’s, but I also have an airbrushed portrait on the front of my fiance and I so it’s pretty obvious I’m taken. I guess the rules of the game state that doesn’t matter, because I still get approached sometimes and women still eye me. The funny part is I don’t consider myself a stud. I’m just an average looking guy so I can only imagine what extreme studs deal with. Many men would probably take them up on the offer so they try. I just reject them because I’m quite content with my fiance. I don’t think women or men know what to say to the other sex in order to start a fresh conversation. We’ve released so many stereotypes that it’s difficult to know what’s acceptable and to who. It’s easier to have a friend hook you up with an associate than it is to start a fresh conversation.